Comments for Listen 4 A Change https://listen4achange.org Listen 4 A Change Online Salon Sat, 24 Aug 2019 00:41:19 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.4.1 Comment on Listening To A Complex of Selves – Insight from John O’Donohue’s Anam Cara by Jerry Catt https://listen4achange.org/2019/04/08/listening-to-a-complex-of-selves-insight-from-john-odonohues-anam-cara/#comment-360 Sat, 24 Aug 2019 00:41:19 +0000 https://listen4achange.org/?p=770#comment-360 In reply to Dottie Lore.

Oh but isn’t it! I hope you enjoy other Salons and will feel at home here to contribute; while many may not have had a formal study of listening, we all have organic experience that is the basis on which we continue to learn! So please do share your insights.

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Comment on Listening To A Complex of Selves – Insight from John O’Donohue’s Anam Cara by Dottie Lore https://listen4achange.org/2019/04/08/listening-to-a-complex-of-selves-insight-from-john-odonohues-anam-cara/#comment-359 Sat, 24 Aug 2019 00:31:41 +0000 https://listen4achange.org/?p=770#comment-359 The nuances of listening. Oh my. It is quite a study, isn’t it?

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Comment on Listening To A Complex of Selves – Insight from John O’Donohue’s Anam Cara by Richard Halley https://listen4achange.org/2019/04/08/listening-to-a-complex-of-selves-insight-from-john-odonohues-anam-cara/#comment-312 Mon, 22 Apr 2019 12:55:13 +0000 https://listen4achange.org/?p=770#comment-312 Another thought. Perhaps one “self” identifies with some part and a different “self” identifies with another?

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Comment on Listening To A Complex of Selves – Insight from John O’Donohue’s Anam Cara by Richard Halley https://listen4achange.org/2019/04/08/listening-to-a-complex-of-selves-insight-from-john-odonohues-anam-cara/#comment-311 Mon, 22 Apr 2019 12:50:08 +0000 https://listen4achange.org/?p=770#comment-311 Jerry, this is an interesting and challenging post. One thing that gets in my way of interacting with it is all of the “we’s” in the language. I would be much more comfortable if O’Donohue were to own his own tendencies and leave the rest of us to ponder whether we have similar experiences. I can certainly identify with the notion of multiple views of the self or even as he suggests multiple selves that manifest in different contexts. On the other hand, A claim like “It is startling that we desperately hold on to what makes us miserable. Our own woundedness becomes a source of perverse pleasure and fixes our identity. We do not want to be cured, for that would mean moving into the unknown.” seems way over the top in its use of “we and our.” I think each of us would find this a different level of over statement, perhaps identifying with some aspect and feeling others unidentifiable. If I can be forgiven for my invasion of your privacy, How much of it do you identify with?

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Comment on Listening: how would you define it? by Sandra Sommers https://listen4achange.org/2016/01/11/listening-how-would-you-define-it/#comment-310 Sun, 21 Apr 2019 00:10:44 +0000 https://listen4achange.org/2016/01/11/listening-how-would-you-define-it/#comment-310 In reply to DAYNA K MITCHELL.

Hi Dayna!
Several thoughts come to mind in reading your response. First of all I really like your thought of listening as ministry…that seems such an easy connection to make, yet how often do we really think of it that way? Maybe if we did we would give greater seriousness to trying to do it better. Certainly, any ‘ministry’ would be enhanced by listening but taking it to the level of the listening itself being the ministry may well be lost on most.
I’m curious about your statement that “…it is easy to listen to self…”… what does that mean and look like to you? Two things come to mind for me, likely because of how steeped I am in the Integrative Restoration (iRest) practice/mindset. When I think of listening to myself being easy I think of the dominant voices that often motivate and activate me. So in that sense at least I resonate with your statement/observation. In another sense, I view and experience the self as more of a multidisciplinary team…many parts that have sometimes different and even conflicting interests. Some of these have been repressed, anathema to us. I believe that for most of us it is a lifetime journey of discovering and integrating all the voices of our inner self, if we choose to take up that work. In this sense listening to self is not easy at all in my experience, though it gets easier the more I give myself to this process.
Also, I’m curious to your thoughts in response to the idea that “Listening begins with the self”, which is to say that we aren’t really able to listen to others beyond our ability to listen to ourself; which is also an idea, at least at this point, I operate under.
I’d love to hear more of your thoughts about and practice of listening as ministry, listening to self…what does that look like and mean to you (that listening to self is easier than listening to others), and the idea that “Listening begins with the self.”
Thanks so much Dayna for the opportunity to continue to explore these ideas about listening here!

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Comment on Listening: how would you define it? by Sandra https://listen4achange.org/2016/01/11/listening-how-would-you-define-it/#comment-309 Sat, 20 Apr 2019 23:00:13 +0000 https://listen4achange.org/2016/01/11/listening-how-would-you-define-it/#comment-309 One thought that came to me in rereading the above salon regarding one of the first questions posed, “Why do you think listening isn’t valued in our country?”, is that for too many of us we grow up with this great inner pressure to speak our truth, that was fostered by our socialization into being a civilized human being in the context of a specific culture…too many of us begin early being taught not to express too rambunctiously, loudly, verbosely etc etc the inner exploration and development of our inner truth…good ie helpful listening was rarely modelled for most of us. Many of us were too often given the message we should be quiet, “shut-up and go to your room”, “listen up”, and expected to be the ones to do the listening. So back to my earlier point, many of us consequently carry with us that longing to speak our truth, to be heard and listened to, as more than a meager desire but more like an urgency…and if we’ve given up on that quest we too often have also shut off the desire to listen to anyone else (except regarding what immediately interests us), since, after all, why should we when we a. aren’t being listened to ourselves, and b. haven’t had much in the way of role models for it. Just a thought.

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Comment on Listening: how would you define it? by DAYNA K MITCHELL https://listen4achange.org/2016/01/11/listening-how-would-you-define-it/#comment-300 Sun, 14 Apr 2019 23:28:30 +0000 https://listen4achange.org/2016/01/11/listening-how-would-you-define-it/#comment-300 In reply to Sandra.

Hi Sandra,

Ego is the first thing that came to my mind as well. Not necessarily in the negative sense of the word. It is difficult to divorce ones self of self in the act of listening. As a female leader in a non-denominational Christian church, I have recently been thinking of listening as a ministry in and of itself. What I have found is listening is a true act of service to others. We are commanded to love God, and love others as our self. Serving others is essentially loving our neighbor as our self. While it is easy to listen to self, it is much more difficult to listen to others. However, when we do; when we are able to truly listen, to understand in love, I believe that is a great act of service to others. I have found people would rather be listened to than counseled. Thank you for the opportunity to contribute.

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Comment on Perspectives for Studying Listening by Krishna Naineni https://listen4achange.org/2018/09/18/perspectives-for-studying-listening/#comment-280 Sat, 09 Mar 2019 08:13:01 +0000 https://listen4achange.org/?p=555#comment-280 Hi Dr Halley.
I enjoyed listening to your presentation.I’m a novice listening researcher and therefore found it very educational. Thank you for sharing your insights and expertise. Looking forward for more videos from you.Krishna

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Comment on Listening Begins in Social Community by Richard Halley https://listen4achange.org/2017/11/29/listening-begins-in-social-community/#comment-210 Wed, 24 Oct 2018 13:40:25 +0000 https://listen4achange.org/2017/11/29/listening-begins-in-social-community/#comment-210 Sandra, your first paragraph is very interesting. Why do you express a need to respond verbally? Just continuing to be there is often just right.

I want to ask you to expand the following sentence, “the challenge for me in listening deeply is that I often am touched deeply and moved to inner spaces of awe filled silence.” Can you help us understand what this experience is like. It sounds really special.

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Comment on Listening Begins in Social Community by Richard Halley https://listen4achange.org/2017/11/29/listening-begins-in-social-community/#comment-209 Wed, 24 Oct 2018 13:35:47 +0000 https://listen4achange.org/2017/11/29/listening-begins-in-social-community/#comment-209 Nathan, you are a champ. Nice detail and very easy to look for on our own. Thanks.

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